I’m sure you’ve encountered these women. When you were in college people used to say they were getting their MRS Degree. If you’re in the military they are Parade Pretty. If you’re in business there doesn’t seem to be a specific label. Sometimes I refer to them as the clubbing girls because what they wear to work would look more appropriate in a club.
Giving Serious Women a Bad Name
Unfortunately for those of us who are serious about what we do certain people can’t seem to understand that a woman in a corporate environment is just as likely to be serious about her work as a man. How do you think she got in the door? It gets old to prove yourself to each and every one of these people.
If things aren’t going well for you at work or your boss can tell you’ve lost motivation it is easy for him or her to just assume you’re not serious about work. Focusing on this issue causes them to assume they don’t need to work with you to discover the problem. Ut oh! This is exasperated by otherwise serious women who step back when they are considering having children. They stop looking for the next promotion, next big project, next opportunity. Keep your foot on the gas pedal until the very end! You don’t want your job to be gone when you get back because you’ve been stepping back and fading out for months or maybe years.
Some men like the not so serious women looking for a husband. They love the female attention and can’t seem to get control of themselves. Or should I say aren’t motivated to get control of themselves. It has paid off in the past and they don’t easily see the downside of being a creeper. Like the pretty girl or the overtalker their perception of the world is not entirely clear.
What about the Not so Serious Men?
Of course there are not so serious men. The difference is that unknown women generally get lumped into the not so serious category and unknown men generally get lumped into the serious category. Men must prove they are not serious before getting put in this category.
Men and things that men do are generally considered to be serious business. Thats why there are so many serious male chefs and yet in general women do the cooking at home. Since women are obviously such experts and have so much experience shouldn’t they also dominate the professional chef scene?
Walking the Line
Serious women are stuck in a difficult situation. Women are expected to behave certain ways to be liked in a social situation and serious people are expected to behave certain ways to be heard. While women are not expected to be super feminine at work there are certain expectations unconsciously brought from one situation to the other.