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Comment on Do you really want to keep your man card? by Kelly

Kelly — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 18:11:29 +0000

Touche. That is called grilling.

In all seriousness… that is the point. Men do all of these things. The manliness of a real man cannnot be determined by an arbitrary and ever shifting list of acceptable activities.

Comment on Do you really want to keep your man card? by Just another guy

Just another guy — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 23:07:19 +0000

I disagree. Men do cook! Even if it is on a grill :)

Comment on The Bromance of Bert and Ernie by Raul Felix

Raul Felix — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 00:12:04 +0000

Great post. Male friendships tend to ne a lot different than female friendships and I believe take a lot longer to develop into a deep level. Men tend to show each other affection by talking shit to one another. Busting each others balls and bringing each other back to reality when ones head gets too big. I’m pretty sure its not the same with females. I’ve always had this thought, two men can get drunk and get into fist fight with one another and the next day be cool, apologize, laugh it off, and forget it about. That almost certainly never happens with females. I may be wrong, but I have not seen it happen once.
Men who are really close and great tend to be fine with hugging each other and sometimes doing mock-homosexual behavior. I consider myself very masculine and can’t tell you how many times I’ve said to one of best male friends “Hey hottie!” while blowing him a kiss. Its just the way we tend to be. Shit talking, ball busting, mock-homosexuals. While I don’t know the science behind it, I know from personal experience.

Comment on Did You Know? Pink was the stronger, manlier color. by Cara Stein

Cara Stein — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 21:35:17 +0000

That’s really interesting! I wonder how the transition/swap occurred. How did they convince everyone that pink was wimpy and girly and blue was strong, when the convention was the opposite before?

It’s amazing to me how the powers that be can totally shape the popular opinion to be… just about anything they want, it seems.

Comment on Did You Know? Pink was the stronger, manlier color. by Kenia

Kenia — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 18:31:56 +0000

This is SO funny and interesting! Who knew?? Thanks for sharing, Kelly! :)

Comment on Pretty Girl Land by Diane

Diane — Sat, 07 May 2011 03:20:39 +0000

I’ve lived in the land of “Please Stop Gawking at Me” ’cause you’re scaring me ever since I was born. It’s a very creepy situation. Both men and women gawk, creep and lust and I hate it. I’m not so much pretty, I’m exotic. Some woman called me striking before. That was different. I don’t look like anyone else.

When I was pregnant, it seemed like every closet creep was mesmerized with me. I was frightened and fat and miserable, but none of that seemed to matter.

I’m really uncomfortable going out into the public arena by myself, so I stay at home. I rarely wear much makeup because that seems to only make the situation worse. I just don’t want to be bothered in this manner. I’m a business women, however I never go to meetings unless I have one or 2 of my male team mates with me.

I’m very blunt with men and tell them that we are never gonna hook up and/or get married.

I was funny-looing as a child but grew into my face I guess. All I know is that I am very defensive about the whole thing. There is more to a beautiful woman than how she looks. It’s a packaged deal.

Comment on Overtalkers by K. Syrah

K. Syrah — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 13:44:30 +0000

Haha, awesome, awesome and well done. Overtalkers have been getting to me lately, no matter how many exasperated sighs I make, they don’t get it.

Comment on Do you really want to keep your man card? by Discovering me | Everything goes through my head

Discovering me | Everything goes through my head — Sat, 11 Dec 2010 19:01:02 +0000

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Comment on A Feminist’s Guide to Splitting the Bill by Kelly

Kelly — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 23:02:38 +0000

“in the wild” hehe

Group first dates aren’t exaclty dates as they are typically somewhat nebulous.

For me, I’ll generally split the bill. Athough if the other person is insistent I generally give in. To me splitting means splitting it up as in each person pays for aproximately what they ate.

Comment on A Feminist’s Guide to Splitting the Bill by Richard

Richard — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 21:43:20 +0000

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a group first date in the wild, which isn’t to say that they won’t become more common. I think that “asker pays” works well for subsequent dates, it addresses income differences as well because you don’t need to worry about putting undue financial pressure on the other person and at the same time there is an obvious and even split. I find that trying to split bills can be really bothersome – split evenly? What if one person eats more food?

I think the first date case is important though because first impressions are important. Also if one person pays then the other may feel obligated to pay them back. When I think back on the first dates I’ve had I tend to view the people who split more highly.